Online Dating Wingman

For guys dabbling with online dating, writing good messages is the biggest stumbling block to meeting women. Any time you see a cute profile picture of a female, the dreaded next step is to compose a message to spark a conversation. Just like walking up to a girl at a bar, it can be unnerving to compose a message to send to an attractive girl.

Guys need help from Cyrano de Bergerac, the trusty wordsmith and noble wingman of playwright history. Although he is disfigured by a large nose, Cyrano is a hopeless romantic who helps his friend Christian conquer the lovely Roxanne, the love of Cyrano’s life. How does he do this?

Imagine the famous Romeo and Juliet balcony scene (Romeo, Romeo, wherefore art thou Romeo?), but when Romeo appears before Juliet, he has a wingman hiding in the shadows below, whispering the most poetic lyrics he can come up with so Romeo can charm Juliet. That’s what Cyrano did for his friend Christian. He made him eloquent, confident, seductive. Now that’s a wingman for you, completely selfless.

Cyrano De Bergerac - Wingman of Lore

There needs to be an online dating wingman service out there for guys. If there was a team of selfless Cyranos willing to help other men meet the women of their dreams, then online dating would be dramatically more effective. I’m surprised I haven’t seen this service offered somewhere. There is a huge demand for it when it comes to traditional dating sites.

Perhaps Marriage Can Wait will need to start a support group to help men collaborate on these type of issues. An announcement will have to be made. VIRTUAL WINGMEN NEEDED!

Come back to check with us and see how this idea develops! We might be onto something here ;0)

Dating Again for Those with Kids

Dating again after a long-term relationship has ended can seem crazy scary for some. It’s even more difficult for those of us with children. When you have kids, you not only worry if your date will fit your needs, but in the back of your mind you also wish they make a good fit for your kids. All of this is further complicated if the other parent of your children (your ex) is still involved in their life, and by default, in yours.

The Detriot Free Press offers some great advice on starting your love life again. It’s a good read if you have kids or if you’re going to start dating someone who does.

5 Reasons to Stay Single; Wait on Marriage

I’m a long-term dater. I’m not the type that gets around, mostly because I’m always in a long-term situation. I go from one committed relationship to another and rarely have short flings. But, that’s not to say that it won’t happen at some point…

Despite my ability to commit to one person and the intense joy I receive from my relationship, I have avoided transitioning into a marriage up until this point.  For some there is a time when setting down might be ‘just right.’ But if this is the case, make sure you’ve taken the time to experience all the ins and outs of your relationship before you make it legally binding.

Below are 5 reasons to wait on marriage and keeping dating:

1. What’s the rush?

If you’ve got something good going, what’s the rush to take it to the next level. I know the idea of combining bank accounts and names might be a huge turn-on for some, but come on! Remember the odds here, there’s at least a 50/50 chance that getting married will ruin your the good thing you’ve got going now. In short, if it’s not broke, don’t fix it.

And as the crew from OnlineBootyCall.com says “Don’t promise marriage just to get a date!”

2. You’ll both try harder.

In dating relationships, each person knows that they can leave. Compared with the legal processes of divorce, if you’re just dating even the messiest break-ups are way easier! Being aware that the object of your affection can “cut and run” helps to keep you on your toes. The idea is that they’ll do the same, and if not, you’re out!

3. Less weight and pressure.

By not rushing marriage, you can keep things simple. Marriage adds a whole range of complications, like the bank accounts and name changing mentioned above. If you’re just dating you can spend your time and focus on enjoying each other and not on how to file jointly for next year’s tax returns.

4. You should know YOU.

In this case, lets look at ice cream. Maybe when you were younger you were totally sold on strawberry ice cream, but of course as your matured and your horizons broadened you moved on to Ben and Jerry’s New York Super Fudge Chunk. Often times we feel we’ve got something totally figured out, we know just how we like it, then blam! Along comes a new flavor.  There’s always a chance that you’ll change or want something different, but with time there comes experience and the more time you give yourself to get to know yourself, the less surprises they’ll be.

5. Who knows lightning could strike!

This one is an extension of the last, but deserving of standing on its own. Every once and a while life gives you more that you expected or at least all that you had hoped for. Maybe you’re settling a bit with your current boyfriend/girlfriend and maybe there are qualities that are missing. Who knows, if that one you’ve really been dreaming about, the one that would really meet your highest standards does to come into your life, then you don’t want to have settled too early on.

OnlineBootyCall Talks Dating and Sex

What is a booty call? The simple definition is usually a late-night call to “hook-up” or have sex with no expectation of establishing a committed relationship. The official Urban Dictionary definition is below:

1. noun: a person with whom one has sex at random times outside of a relation ship.
2. verb: the act of calling said person.
3. noun: the term used to refer to said phone call.

However, a Booty Call can be far more complex and in of itself a specific type of relationship. A booty call is often something that is established, and can reoccur again in the future. This of course differs from a one-night stand, which only occurs once. As more and more people choose to remain single and avoid “traditional” relationships, booty calls are becoming increasingly popular.

Online Booty Call CEO and Founder Moses Brown interviewed with Mike and Juliet on the Morning Show to discuss the online dating website, sex and booty calls. It’s a great watch, so watch it!

Here’s a little bit about OnlineBootyCall.com

OnlineBootyCall.com is an online dating community for singles who enjoy being single. The site’s lighthearted approach to dating allows its members to combine all the benefits of dating with the excitement of maintaining the single life. Highlighting this unique site, Online Booty Call was recently featured on Fox’s The Morning Show with Mike and Juliet. With millions of registered members throughout the US, UK, Canada, and Australia, OBC makes millions of personal connections every week. OBC is an interactive and fun dating site where “you don’t have to promise marriage just to get a date!”

The Joy of Sex!

It’s Back Again, and better.  The Sydney Morning Herald brings us the news:

“First published in 1972, The Joy Of Sex went on to sell 8 million copies in 22 languages, becoming famous as much for its frank illustrations as the knowing prose of the author, Alex Comfort.”

The new edition comes with several updates and changes:

“Sections such as those on prostitution and chastity belts have disappeared, replaced with information on “the little blue pill” and cybersex, including internet dating and foreplay via SMS, email, webcams and teledildonics (electric sex toys that are controlled remotely).”

Did they just say teledildonics???  Wired provides a quick introduction to the subject, which is not as sci-fi and nerdy as it sounds.  In addition to advanced robotics like teledildonics, The Joy of Sex also delves into more practical advice, such as how to text message appropriately:

“Quilliam’s advice on conducting sex via email is eminently sensible: don’t get hung up on grammar and spelling, “yet equally, don’t aim to talk dirty – in black and white it can seem harsh or simply silly”.

Read the full story here: Girls on top in noughties but nice sex guide

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Megan Fox: I had crush on stripper

LOS ANGELES, California (AP) — Megan Fox has nothing to hide.

The candid 22-year-old “Transformers” star, who’s currently engaged to actor Brian Austin Green, opened up to GQ about her love life, telling the magazine she was once in love with a female stripper. Fox, who appears on the October cover in a black bikini, said she was in the relationship when she was 18 and first living in Los Angeles alone.

“Well, that year my boyfriend broke up with me, and I decided — oh man, sorry, mommy! — that I was in love with this girl that worked at the Body Shop,” said Fox. “I decided that I was going to get her to love me back, and I went out of my way to create a relationship with this girl, a stripper named Nikita.”

Fox said Nikita would do “these beautiful slow dances to Aerosmith ballads.” The actress also said she would bring the Russian stripper gifts and try to inspire her to quit her line of work.

Fox’s publicist, Dominique Appel, confirmed the contents of the GQ report Monday.

Despite the brief relationship with a woman, Fox said she does not identify herself as gay.

“Look, I’m not a lesbian,” said Fox. “I just think that all humans are born with the ability to be attracted to both sexes. I mean, I could see myself in a relationship with a girl — Olivia Wilde is so sexy she makes me want to strangle a mountain ox with my bare hands. She’s mesmerizing. And lately I’ve been obsessed with Jenna Jameson, but … oh boy.”

Full Ariticle Here at cnn.com

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Women: ‘Money Over Marriage’

The Press Association: ‘Debt more worrying than marriage’. That’s right guys; girls are more concerned about time and money than a ‘happy marriage.’

“Women are more worried about debt and a lack of free time than their marriages and careers, according to a new study.”

Well, that’s fair… Hell, I’m much more interested in beer and football. So, if the more money you have, the less you have to work, then the more time you’ll have. In this case, the real way to please a woman isn’t endless devotion, but money! Yes, sir, cold hard cash.

money, time, then love

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Sex in a Smart Car?

If you haven’t noticed, we stay up to date with our favorite dating site onlinebootycall.com. Right now they’re running this crazy contest where they’re giving away a Smart Car Cabriolet. We had to laugh a little because, well, the Smart Car is not exactly your pimp-mobile. It’s no shaggin’ wagon either, and I don’t expect James Bond to be driving this car anytime soon.

Luckily, nothing is sexier today than being Green and fuel-efficient. You nail both the eco-consciousness and the independence from foreign oil in one clean swoop. Still, I wonder if anyone has ever pulled off sex in a Smart Car? That would totally earn you mad points, more points than the mile-high club, even with today’s strict “don’t screw around on planes” FAA regulations.

So, leave a comment with the tightest place where you’ve gotten freaky. Elevator, coat check closet, Smart Car?

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Never Say This On A First Date

First dates are always the hardest. The pressure to be perfect can be unnerving, not to mention outright embarrassing at times. Even if the evening is going great, sometimes your date utters the most baffling set of words, resulting in a complete deal breaker.

CNN’s advice, Don’t Say THIS to a New Date, humorously covers the topic with a list of items that should never be discussed on a first date. Check it out, and share any topics you think should have made the list in the comments section below.

For example, we thought marriage should have made the list 😉

I Don’t Love You Anymore… Goodbye

The title for this post is a quote from the movie “Closer” starring Natalie Portman. It’s the break-up line she uses to crush the hopes of Jude Law at the end of the film. Frankly, I love this quote.

It is an honest way (brutal i know) to end a relationship. Rather than placating the other person with excuses and poor explanations, this allows the pain, destruction, and hurt their proper place: up front and center stage with no distractions.

It is unambiguous and final. “I’m leaving, it’s over.” I can think of few things more difficult than having to end a long-term relationship with someone you have cared deeply about, aside from extreme situations like admitting to infidelity or facing death in the family.

The break-up is something central to all of our lives. NPR’s radio program “This American Life” did a wonderful piece on this subject entitled Break Up. Covering the whole spectrum of letting-go and moving on, the show discusses everything from the story of a young teen getting “dumped” and living with a broken heart to the intricacies of divorce.

If you have the time, take a good listen and explore one of the harder sides of love.

– Bill Thompson

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