5 Reasons to Stay Single; Wait on Marriage

3 10 2008

I’m a long-term dater. I’m not the type that gets around, mostly because I’m always in a long-term situation. I go from one committed relationship to another and rarely have short flings. But, that’s not to say that it won’t happen at some point…

Despite my ability to commit to one person and the intense joy I receive from my relationship, I have avoided transitioning into a marriage up until this point.  For some there is a time when setting down might be ‘just right.’ But if this is the case, make sure you’ve taken the time to experience all the ins and outs of your relationship before you make it legally binding.

Below are 5 reasons to wait on marriage and keeping dating:

1. What’s the rush?

If you’ve got something good going, what’s the rush to take it to the next level. I know the idea of combining bank accounts and names might be a huge turn-on for some, but come on! Remember the odds here, there’s at least a 50/50 chance that getting married will ruin your the good thing you’ve got going now. In short, if it’s not broke, don’t fix it.

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2. You’ll both try harder.

In dating relationships, each person knows that they can leave. Compared with the legal processes of divorce, if you’re just dating even the messiest break-ups are way easier! Being aware that the object of your affection can “cut and run” helps to keep you on your toes. The idea is that they’ll do the same, and if not, you’re out!

3. Less weight and pressure.

By not rushing marriage, you can keep things simple. Marriage adds a whole range of complications, like the bank accounts and name changing mentioned above. If you’re just dating you can spend your time and focus on enjoying each other and not on how to file jointly for next year’s tax returns.

4. You should know YOU.

In this case, lets look at ice cream. Maybe when you were younger you were totally sold on strawberry ice cream, but of course as your matured and your horizons broadened you moved on to Ben and Jerry’s New York Super Fudge Chunk. Often times we feel we’ve got something totally figured out, we know just how we like it, then blam! Along comes a new flavor.  There’s always a chance that you’ll change or want something different, but with time there comes experience and the more time you give yourself to get to know yourself, the less surprises they’ll be.

5. Who knows lightning could strike!

This one is an extension of the last, but deserving of standing on its own. Every once and a while life gives you more that you expected or at least all that you had hoped for. Maybe you’re settling a bit with your current boyfriend/girlfriend and maybe there are qualities that are missing. Who knows, if that one you’ve really been dreaming about, the one that would really meet your highest standards does to come into your life, then you don’t want to have settled too early on.

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Megan Fox: I had crush on stripper

16 09 2008

LOS ANGELES, California (AP) — Megan Fox has nothing to hide.

The candid 22-year-old “Transformers” star, who’s currently engaged to actor Brian Austin Green, opened up to GQ about her love life, telling the magazine she was once in love with a female stripper. Fox, who appears on the October cover in a black bikini, said she was in the relationship when she was 18 and first living in Los Angeles alone.

“Well, that year my boyfriend broke up with me, and I decided — oh man, sorry, mommy! — that I was in love with this girl that worked at the Body Shop,” said Fox. “I decided that I was going to get her to love me back, and I went out of my way to create a relationship with this girl, a stripper named Nikita.”

Fox said Nikita would do “these beautiful slow dances to Aerosmith ballads.” The actress also said she would bring the Russian stripper gifts and try to inspire her to quit her line of work.

Fox’s publicist, Dominique Appel, confirmed the contents of the GQ report Monday.

Despite the brief relationship with a woman, Fox said she does not identify herself as gay.

“Look, I’m not a lesbian,” said Fox. “I just think that all humans are born with the ability to be attracted to both sexes. I mean, I could see myself in a relationship with a girl — Olivia Wilde is so sexy she makes me want to strangle a mountain ox with my bare hands. She’s mesmerizing. And lately I’ve been obsessed with Jenna Jameson, but … oh boy.”

Full Ariticle Here at cnn.com

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Marriage: A Dicey Contract

29 08 2008
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Dicey Contracts... Flickr:Topher76

By Moses Brown:

Some people think the easiest way out of their marriage is to kill their spouse. Frankly, I don’t blame them – after all, nuptial vows mention death as the only escape from marriage (till death do us part).

What’s the difference between doing life in prison for killing your spouse and spending life in hell stuck with your spouse? The only viable alternative is to spend years fighting a messy divorce battle in court, but who wants that option?

The biggest reason marriage can wait is so you can cautiously scrutinize the binding contract that ensnares you FOREVER. Contracts usually indicate that you owe someone either money or a service. By entering into a marriage contract you’re agreeing to owe your spouse for the rest of your life! Seriously?

I once signed a contract that obligated me to pay a retainer of six months. Within two months, I realized the contractor was ripping me off but I was stuck paying the bill since court would cost more than the retainer itself. Imagine if your spouse didn’t think you were fulfilling your end of the contract? Maybe that’s why “contract killers” exist haha.

On a serious note, in 2005 over 1,500 homicides in the US were labeled “Intimate Partner Homicides” by the redundant U.S. Justice Department’s Bureau of Justice. The majority of ‘intimate partner homicide’ victims are killed by the person closest to them: their spouses. Who knew that marriage was not only the leading cause of divorce, but also the leading cause of Intimate Partner Homicide?

I hope I didn’t scare you too much, especially if you’re already married. For you married peeps out there just try to make the best of it. Take a good look at your spouse and understand that you could bring out the killer in him/her. I would also come up with a contingency plan just in case your marriage doesn’t last. Think of the first thing you’d do and try to imagine starting your life over again, alone. It’s like hunting for another job after getting fired. After all, if you end up killing your spouse you’ll end up being alone anyway !!

– Moses Brown, CEO and Founder of OnlineBootyCall.com