8 Great Reasons for Staying Single

17 04 2009

Being single allows a person to have total control over¬†what and who they want to do ūüėȬ† It is a time in one’s life where¬†you¬†can afford to be as selfish as¬†you like because you don’t have to worry about anyone but yourself.¬†¬†An unattached individual¬†encompasses the feelings of freedom, independence, sovereignty, and power.¬† For some, single-hood becomes a way of life that¬† is much more comfortable and enjoyable than being attached in a committed relationship.¬† Whether you are a lifetime single or someone who is fresh and new to this way of life…embrace it because it sure has a lot to offer!…

We are witnessing a major trend in the growth of the US singles population as more people are choosing to wait longer before settling down and getting married.¬†¬† Maybe this trend correlates to the increasing US divorce rate or maybe being single is just so much fun that people are making it a way of life.¬† Whatever the reason, people are loving and living the single life.¬† Here is my list of some of the best reasons to stay single…

1.)¬† You get to do WHAT you want, WHEN you want…

You never have to ask if it’s OK for you to go on that vacation, call that person, or buy that thing.¬† Every single decision you make is up to you and you alone.¬† No need to worry about what the other person is going to think.

2.)¬† You get to take your sweet time…

Marriage is a HUGE commitment, a life-time deal, a wake up in bed next to the same person every day for the rest of your life decision.¬† Take your time!¬† When you are single, you won’t have to worry about having someone constantly harassing you about “the next step” or the “L” word.¬† You get to go at your own pace and enjoy every minute of it.

3.)¬† If¬†the¬†SEX is¬†boring…you can do it with someone else!

If you think that waking up next to the same person for the rest of your life is bad…imagine how scary it could be to have sex with that same one person…and nobody else…forever!¬† AHHH! If that thought freaks you out, then you are definitely better of being single.¬† If you sleep with someone and it sucks…go sleep with someone else.¬† If you are sleeping with someone who gains a hefty 15 pounds and it becomes a little too much cushion for the pushing…then ditch the fatty!¬† That’s the joy of having no commitment…you can leave whenever you want.

4.)  You can focus on your CAREER

Yup!¬† This is a biggie!¬† Without the pressure and stresses of a commitment to another person, you can focus solely on yourself…this means it’s time to start getting your shit together.¬† A career…especially in the current economic situation…is extremely important!¬† So go tackle that new job or apply to graduate school…it’s all up to you!

5.) You can build your WEALTH

Heck Yes you can!¬† We all know how expensive it can be to have a significant other…especially if that “other” is a woman who loves shopping ūüôā¬† When you only have to worry about your own expenses, you will be able to put a lot more money away in savings.

6.) You can keep all of your TOYS and Quirks

OK, for the men…if you don’t have a woman in your life, then you have a lot more room and time for your “toys.”¬† I’m talking about cars, boats, video games, and whatever else sparks your fancy.¬† As for the ladies, you can keep your pink wallpaper and barbie collection dolls without a single word being said.¬† And in regards to quirks…when you are single you can sleep, talk, walk, burp, and eat in any manner you want.¬† You don’t have to deal with someone constantly picking and analyzing every little thing you do or don’t do.

7.)  You can enjoy serenity

Ahhh Yes!  Although being single can bring on some pretty wild and crazy moments, at the end of the day, you get to go home to your own room, with your own bed, and watch your own TV shows.  You get to enjoy your independence and what an empowering thing that can be!

8.)¬† You don’t EVER have to compromise

Never again do you have to “meet in the middle” or “give in” just because you have to make sure that the other person is happy.¬† Being single is all about you, you, you.¬† If you want to do something, do it, and don’t ever feel bad about it.

This is your life…and you only have one to live, so live it…and keep it SINGLE!





Women Pass Up Marriage, Children, for Career

22 08 2008

NY Times from Dating Dames

“Researchers said the numbers seemed to be consistent with other demographic trends, including the rising age of women marrying and having children for the first time, as well as women with more education having fewer children later in life.

The demands on women are incredible these days.¬† Opposing forces of self-fulfillment, career and family, constantly tugging in different directions.¬† It’s no surprise that educated, working women, having tasted the rewards of a successful career, the freedom that comes from financial independence, would question giving up years of their hard work just to please the norms of society, namely to procreate and shepherd over a family.

You have to respect anyone willing to carry another life around for 9 months, then dedicate the next several years of their life nurturing and molding that being into another (hopefully decent) kid.   It makes sense to wait a couple years before jumping into that kind of lifestyle.
Props to all the women who wait!  Enjoy your youth, enjoy being single, and learn about who you are, both professionally, spiritually, philosophically, before making a lifelong commitment to a marriage partner and potential children.