The Different Types of Casual Sex

20 05 2009

Sex is AMAZING…or at least it should be!  It releases endorphins,  reduces stress, torches major calories, promotes better sleeping habits, and feels f**king fantastic!  Sex should be something you can enjoy on a regular basis.  I’m talking daily… none of this every couple of months stuff!  Just because you aren’t in a committed relationship doesn’t mean that your sex life has to suffer.  Get what you want and deserve..whenever you want it…no matter what your relationship situation may be.

Casual sex (with partners whom you are not in a committed relationship with) is extremely popular and prevalent today in the world of singles.  There are numerous situations in which casual sex can occur.  Some of the most common are booty call sex and ex-sex, but trust me there are tons more.  Here is a short list of some of the different types of casual sex situations.  Let me know if you have any to add to the list 🙂

1.) Mercy Sex

Definition: Sex with someone whom you feel particularly bad for.  Maybe this person has been in love with you since the third grade and you are sick of the constant nagging or maybe this person just went through a traumatizing life experience… Whatever the reason may be, you feel sorry for them and therefore (after probably a few too many vodka sodas) decided to do the damn thing and write it off as an act of charity or your good deed of the day.

2.) Palate Cleansing Sex

Definition: Palate cleansing sex or rebound sex is used to rid yourself and your body of a previous sexual partner.  Maybe your boyfriend cheated on you with your best friend and you are looking to do someone else in attempt to get back or get over it.  Or maybe you had the most horrific sex of your entire life and you just need to get that bad taste out of your mouth.  My only advice for this type of sex is to make sure that it is pretty great, or else you will feel even worse than you did before.

3.)  Hate Sex

Definition: This is the passionate, crazy, aggressive, angry sex that often occurs when a couple is breaking up or when an argument has surfaced.  A perfect example of this type of sex is from the movie Mr. and Mrs. Smith, when Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie have the hottest most passionate sex ever.  This is probably not the healthiest form of casual sex (because there are usually a lot of emotions involved), but hey…sometimes it makes you feel better to get all of that aggression out by having a hard core romp.

4.)  Drive-thru Sex

Definition: This is the McDonald’s of casual sex.  Basically, this is the get it and go type of sex that is fast and to the point.  No cuddling or pillow talk required.  You are there for one reason and one reason only.  This quickie can be super exciting and spontaneous because the sex can occur in random places or locations..such as office stairwells, restaurant bathrooms, and parking structures.  So use your imagination and have some fun with this one ;).

5.)  Booty Call Sex

Definition: This is my personal favorite :).  It can really be defined in any way you want and is based on personal expectations.  A booty call can be someone who you are extremely attracted to and enjoy having sex with.  The encounter can be just sex, or can include dinner, conversation, and friendship.  Again, the expectations are up to you, so get your line up going and get some booty!





Sex Myths Solved !

5 05 2009

Okay, so it’s a given that we have all been confronted at one point or another with questions about sex.  Whether you knew the answer, pretended you knew it, or had absolutely no clue… it is never too late to learn a little more about the highly discussed three letter word.

So here it goes… five sex myths that are finally set straight.  Get out your pen and paper or make a mental note, cause you wont want to forget this…

Myth #1:  Men want sex more than women do.

The Verdict:  FALSE!

This is a long-lived myth that is completely untrue.  Yes, men are usually the ones to initiate sex or to casually bring it up in conversation..but that is definitely not always the case.  Trust me, girls talk about sex, think about sex, and have sex just as much as men do…if not more.  It used to be socially unacceptable for women to be viewed as “sexual beings,” but the times are changing and women are becoming much more comfortable and confident in the realm of sex.  Another reason why it may seem that men want sex more than women is because men are much more mechanical than women when it comes to feelings associated with sex.  Often times women group emotions and sex in the same category, so if we are mad, hurt, or annoyed at a guy, we are less likely to want to have sex with him.  Guys on the other hand, usually don’t have any problem with separating emotions from sex.

Myth #2:  Size Doesn’t matter

The Verdict: FALSE!

Sorry boys, but it’s the truth.  Size does matter…A LOT!  I mean, come on..let’s be honest.  As much as it may not be fair to some, the size of a man makes a huge difference to women…especially in terms of sexual attraction and desire.  If you were ever told by a girl that size doesn’t matter…sorry, but they were totally lying to you and were just trying to make you feel better.  I’m gonna be real ( call me a bitch if you want), but some body’s gotta be the honest one.  A man can be physically attractive, great body, funny, kind, loving, etc…but if their manhood is lacking…there is guaranteed to be some level of a let down.  I’m not saying that you can’t please a woman without a huge package..but, you better be really good at “other things” if you are lacking in the size department.

Myth # 3:  Men reach their sexual peak at 18 and woman reach theirs at 28

The Verdict:  TRUE!

Yes, this information is true and it gives us ladies a great excuse for dating younger men!…haha.  Men reach their sexual peak about 10 years earlier than women do.  However, just because a man or woman’s hormone levels may be at an all time high doesn’t mean that they are going to have the best sex.  Peak hormones and peak sexual performance are not the same thing.  My advice is to strive to have the best sex all the time..no matter what age you are :).

Myth #4:  The average erection measures 8 inches

The Verdict:  FALSE

Don’t stress shorty, that is not an accurate number.  Unfortunately, average Joe’s erection only measures 6 inches…not 8.  6 seems to be the magic number and as long as you are close by…you can rest assured that the majority of other guys are right there with you.  However, may I point out that they don’t make any 6 inch dildo’s…just saying.

Myth # 5:  Having sex before an important event can ruin your performance in the event

The Verdict:  FALSE!

Thank God!  Whether you are playing in that Championship game or giving the speech of a lifetime, you don’t have to worry about whether or not having sex before the “big day” is going to mess with your performance.  This myth has been studied through stress tests and results have shown that 10 hours after sex, you are fully recovered and performance is not effected what-so-ever.  There is only an extremely slight dip in performance 2 hours after having sex…but not enough to matter.  So next time you contemplate getting down before that ever-so-important event, think again and go for it. You never know, it might even help you out!