8 Great Reasons for Staying Single

17 04 2009

Being single allows a person to have total control over¬†what and who they want to do ūüėȬ† It is a time in one’s life where¬†you¬†can afford to be as selfish as¬†you like because you don’t have to worry about anyone but yourself.¬†¬†An unattached individual¬†encompasses the feelings of freedom, independence, sovereignty, and power.¬† For some, single-hood becomes a way of life that¬† is much more comfortable and enjoyable than being attached in a committed relationship.¬† Whether you are a lifetime single or someone who is fresh and new to this way of life…embrace it because it sure has a lot to offer!…

We are witnessing a major trend in the growth of the US singles population as more people are choosing to wait longer before settling down and getting married.¬†¬† Maybe this trend correlates to the increasing US divorce rate or maybe being single is just so much fun that people are making it a way of life.¬† Whatever the reason, people are loving and living the single life.¬† Here is my list of some of the best reasons to stay single…

1.)¬† You get to do WHAT you want, WHEN you want…

You never have to ask if it’s OK for you to go on that vacation, call that person, or buy that thing.¬† Every single decision you make is up to you and you alone.¬† No need to worry about what the other person is going to think.

2.)¬† You get to take your sweet time…

Marriage is a HUGE commitment, a life-time deal, a wake up in bed next to the same person every day for the rest of your life decision.¬† Take your time!¬† When you are single, you won’t have to worry about having someone constantly harassing you about “the next step” or the “L” word.¬† You get to go at your own pace and enjoy every minute of it.

3.)¬† If¬†the¬†SEX is¬†boring…you can do it with someone else!

If you think that waking up next to the same person for the rest of your life is bad…imagine how scary it could be to have sex with that same one person…and nobody else…forever!¬† AHHH! If that thought freaks you out, then you are definitely better of being single.¬† If you sleep with someone and it sucks…go sleep with someone else.¬† If you are sleeping with someone who gains a hefty 15 pounds and it becomes a little too much cushion for the pushing…then ditch the fatty!¬† That’s the joy of having no commitment…you can leave whenever you want.

4.)  You can focus on your CAREER

Yup!¬† This is a biggie!¬† Without the pressure and stresses of a commitment to another person, you can focus solely on yourself…this means it’s time to start getting your shit together.¬† A career…especially in the current economic situation…is extremely important!¬† So go tackle that new job or apply to graduate school…it’s all up to you!

5.) You can build your WEALTH

Heck Yes you can!¬† We all know how expensive it can be to have a significant other…especially if that “other” is a woman who loves shopping ūüôā¬† When you only have to worry about your own expenses, you will be able to put a lot more money away in savings.

6.) You can keep all of your TOYS and Quirks

OK, for the men…if you don’t have a woman in your life, then you have a lot more room and time for your “toys.”¬† I’m talking about cars, boats, video games, and whatever else sparks your fancy.¬† As for the ladies, you can keep your pink wallpaper and barbie collection dolls without a single word being said.¬† And in regards to quirks…when you are single you can sleep, talk, walk, burp, and eat in any manner you want.¬† You don’t have to deal with someone constantly picking and analyzing every little thing you do or don’t do.

7.)  You can enjoy serenity

Ahhh Yes!  Although being single can bring on some pretty wild and crazy moments, at the end of the day, you get to go home to your own room, with your own bed, and watch your own TV shows.  You get to enjoy your independence and what an empowering thing that can be!

8.)¬† You don’t EVER have to compromise

Never again do you have to “meet in the middle” or “give in” just because you have to make sure that the other person is happy.¬† Being single is all about you, you, you.¬† If you want to do something, do it, and don’t ever feel bad about it.

This is your life…and you only have one to live, so live it…and keep it SINGLE!


Mel Gibson: The man behind the worlds most expensive divorce

14 04 2009

OK, so we are all well aware of the fact that in Hollywood, marriage, relationships, and really all commitments between two people of any kind, do not seem to last long. However, if for some miracle  it does last longer than a few months (or weeks), the ending is sure to be no fairy tale.

Let’s take a look at A-Lister and world-renounced big screen actor, director, and producer, Mr. Mel Gibson. This money making mogul is estimated to be worth around $1 billion! His movie, The Passion of the Christ, (that he both directed and produced), pulled in $600 million in the box office alone!

So, what is the only problem with being that rich…?

Going through a divorce from a 28 year-long marriage with NO prenup.  Ouch!

Yup! Looks like Mel Gibson is going to lose half of his earnings (or $500 million) to his soon to be ex-wife, Robyn Moore. The couple has 7 kids together and have been married since 1980. Moore, who is very-low profile, is about to be an extremely wealthy and single lady…

So if you’re looking for a sugar mama, she might just be the perfect candidate ;).

Alec on Kissing Aniston

18 11 2008


I think my love affair for Jennifer Aniston started when she was in the movie Office Space.¬† I also think that movie really solidified my distaste for cubicals, but that’s another post.¬† I can’t say that Brad was a fool for going for Angalina, but I must say that Jennifer is one amazing woman.

Anyway in my daily cruising around the web, I came across this little story from New York Magazine which gives Alec’s thoughts on Kissing Aniston, who played a crazy lover on an episode of 30 Rock.

Alec also talks a bit about if crazy people are great lovers or not.  The short of it:  girls = yes, guys = no.

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Facebook Claims Another Life

20 10 2008

Yet another Facebook tragedy arises.¬† Out of jealousy, a man killed his former wife after discovering she had changed her Facebook status to ‘single.’¬†¬† The couple had separated just four days prior to the incident.

The intense bout of rage was sparked after the wife posted a negative story about her husband on her Facebook profile, then went on to change her relationship status to ‘single.’¬† Sadly, the deranged husband could not handle the rejection. He immediately drove over to her house and attacked her with a meat cleaver.

“Wayne Forrester, 34, drank alcohol and took cocaine before driving 15 miles to the family home to attack wife Emma as she lay in bed.

What kind of marriage does one get into where your life partner is a potential murdered?¬† It makes me wonder if it’s possible to ever know these things.¬† How well do you know somebody before you marry them?¬† Is it ever possible to know that your spouse is capable of killing you?

There must have been warning signs along the way.  One can never be too careful about taking the next step into marriage.  It is such an incredible commitment that breaking it can often lead to tragic ends.   Please take your time,  go through the full vetting process,  and enjoy being single while you can!

Full story is here:

Husband hacked wife to death with meat cleaver after she changed Facebook status to single

Casual Sex as a Scapegoat for Depression

2 10 2008

Casual sex, a carefree indulgement or a depression inducing trap?

Image via Tom Godberg - Flickr masochismtango
Image via Tom Godberg – Flickr masochismtango

The Daily Illini brings us this shocking headline:

Casual Sex Can Result in Depression; Study Says Women Expect Romance

The study found an unsurprising result: women are more likely to feel attached to a man after casual sex. Only 3 percent of the men surveyed felt a casual sex encounter was the beginning of romance, compared to 18 percent of women.

“college-aged women who have a history of casual sex tend to feel more depressive symptoms after their sexual experiences than men do.”

Are you serious? I would love to see the comparison of people who go through college and actively wish to have sex but never have the opportunity, and compare their level happiness to those who engaged in casual sex. Who do you think is more depressed? Perhaps the headline would change to “study finds that people that fail to engage in casual sex are more likely to be depressed.

Many factors can lead to depression, but I find it hard to believe that casual sex is a primary factor involved in this ailment. I won’t underscore the importance of building meaningful relationships with members of the opposite sex, but this study makes casual sex a scape goat for larger issues out there.

The most important aspect of casual sex, which the Daily Illini fails to point out, is the importance of expectations. If casual sex takes place between two consenting adults with honest expectations, then there are no misconceptions, no depression inducing anguish.

Wouldn’t it be easier to advise an open approach to casual sex rather than to vilify it as a cause for depression? It makes me wonder if the people conducting these studies have ever experienced casual sex and have come to terms with the experience. hm….

Seriously guys, take it easy!

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Keep Celebrating Singles Week

25 09 2008

USA (Unmarried and Single Americans) Week is not over yet, so we bring you a quick reminder of why you should be proud to celebrate your privileged lifestyle.

Here are   52 Reasons to Celebrate Being Single


National Singles Week

24 09 2008

Why should we celebrate being single?

Bella DePaulo, PHD and visiting professor of psychology at the University of California Santa Barbara, gives us 14 reasons why we need to celebrate National Singles Week. One of her points rang true with us:

“We need it because the de-stigmatizing of single life does not undermine marriage, it strengthens it. When single people can live their lives with all of the same respect, benefits, protections, and opportunities as people who are married, then those who want to marry are free. They can pursue marriage for the right reasons – not to run away from the stigma of being single, but to embrace the attractions of being married.”

Her words encapsulate much of the work we do here at Marriage Can Wait. We highlight the joys of the single life and we caution against rushing into marriage for the wrong reasons. We don’t vilify marriage, we help singles value the opportunities they have as individuals. Too often marriage is glorified in national media, without an accurate portrayal of the commitment required to make it work.

Here are 14 reasons why we need to celebrate National Singles Week, brought to you by Bella DePaulo.