The Different Types of Casual Sex

20 05 2009

Sex is AMAZING…or at least it should be!  It releases endorphins,  reduces stress, torches major calories, promotes better sleeping habits, and feels f**king fantastic!  Sex should be something you can enjoy on a regular basis.  I’m talking daily… none of this every couple of months stuff!  Just because you aren’t in a committed relationship doesn’t mean that your sex life has to suffer.  Get what you want and deserve..whenever you want it…no matter what your relationship situation may be.

Casual sex (with partners whom you are not in a committed relationship with) is extremely popular and prevalent today in the world of singles.  There are numerous situations in which casual sex can occur.  Some of the most common are booty call sex and ex-sex, but trust me there are tons more.  Here is a short list of some of the different types of casual sex situations.  Let me know if you have any to add to the list 🙂

1.) Mercy Sex

Definition: Sex with someone whom you feel particularly bad for.  Maybe this person has been in love with you since the third grade and you are sick of the constant nagging or maybe this person just went through a traumatizing life experience… Whatever the reason may be, you feel sorry for them and therefore (after probably a few too many vodka sodas) decided to do the damn thing and write it off as an act of charity or your good deed of the day.

2.) Palate Cleansing Sex

Definition: Palate cleansing sex or rebound sex is used to rid yourself and your body of a previous sexual partner.  Maybe your boyfriend cheated on you with your best friend and you are looking to do someone else in attempt to get back or get over it.  Or maybe you had the most horrific sex of your entire life and you just need to get that bad taste out of your mouth.  My only advice for this type of sex is to make sure that it is pretty great, or else you will feel even worse than you did before.

3.)  Hate Sex

Definition: This is the passionate, crazy, aggressive, angry sex that often occurs when a couple is breaking up or when an argument has surfaced.  A perfect example of this type of sex is from the movie Mr. and Mrs. Smith, when Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie have the hottest most passionate sex ever.  This is probably not the healthiest form of casual sex (because there are usually a lot of emotions involved), but hey…sometimes it makes you feel better to get all of that aggression out by having a hard core romp.

4.)  Drive-thru Sex

Definition: This is the McDonald’s of casual sex.  Basically, this is the get it and go type of sex that is fast and to the point.  No cuddling or pillow talk required.  You are there for one reason and one reason only.  This quickie can be super exciting and spontaneous because the sex can occur in random places or locations..such as office stairwells, restaurant bathrooms, and parking structures.  So use your imagination and have some fun with this one ;).

5.)  Booty Call Sex

Definition: This is my personal favorite :).  It can really be defined in any way you want and is based on personal expectations.  A booty call can be someone who you are extremely attracted to and enjoy having sex with.  The encounter can be just sex, or can include dinner, conversation, and friendship.  Again, the expectations are up to you, so get your line up going and get some booty!


Casual Sex as a Scapegoat for Depression

2 10 2008

Casual sex, a carefree indulgement or a depression inducing trap?

Image via Tom Godberg - Flickr masochismtango
Image via Tom Godberg – Flickr masochismtango

The Daily Illini brings us this shocking headline:

Casual Sex Can Result in Depression; Study Says Women Expect Romance

The study found an unsurprising result: women are more likely to feel attached to a man after casual sex. Only 3 percent of the men surveyed felt a casual sex encounter was the beginning of romance, compared to 18 percent of women.

“college-aged women who have a history of casual sex tend to feel more depressive symptoms after their sexual experiences than men do.”

Are you serious? I would love to see the comparison of people who go through college and actively wish to have sex but never have the opportunity, and compare their level happiness to those who engaged in casual sex. Who do you think is more depressed? Perhaps the headline would change to “study finds that people that fail to engage in casual sex are more likely to be depressed.

Many factors can lead to depression, but I find it hard to believe that casual sex is a primary factor involved in this ailment. I won’t underscore the importance of building meaningful relationships with members of the opposite sex, but this study makes casual sex a scape goat for larger issues out there.

The most important aspect of casual sex, which the Daily Illini fails to point out, is the importance of expectations. If casual sex takes place between two consenting adults with honest expectations, then there are no misconceptions, no depression inducing anguish.

Wouldn’t it be easier to advise an open approach to casual sex rather than to vilify it as a cause for depression? It makes me wonder if the people conducting these studies have ever experienced casual sex and have come to terms with the experience. hm….

Seriously guys, take it easy!

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