Was this a success or a failure?

We found this while surfing the forums of other dating sites….

“I’ve met some jerks in my life, but this one has been by far the worst. I’ll start off by saying how I noticed a lot of men here complain about not getting messages. Therefore, I decided to take it upon myself to message men in my area who I found interesting. This one in particular was creative, intelligent and handsome…or so his profile led me to believe. We messaged each other on and off through here and IM for about 3 weeks before we met. It’s amazing how much of a connection you can make with someone just by talking to them online. We had a lot in common and a lot of the same outlooks. I could not wait to meet him in person.

So the day we meet rolls around and I dress up nicely and wear my hair beautifully, and let’s face it…I looked HOT. We meet at a little cafe/restaurant place, and he was just…rude. He barely made eye contact with me, he spoke in a bored monotone voice. I did most of the talking, and I swear to God he would kind of roll his eyes in a childish way. He habitually checked his watch and his cell phone. When the meal ended he only offered to pay for his half, and then bails. Doesn’t offer me a ride or anything. What did I do wrong? It was so depressing since I really liked him online.

Naturally, I go home and drink almost a full bottle of wine when I get a text message from him. He asks if I want to come over his place and hang out, maybe watch a movie. I thought “This is great, he’s going to make it up to me and maybe he was just nervous before”. Well I get there and drink some more with him, and next thing you know we’re having sex. At the end of the night he calls me a cab and I go home, THINKING that this is just the first of many dates. The last thing he said was that he’d call to take me out to concert nearby.

A week comes and goes, no word from him. I text him and no reply. I call and get the answering machine. I write him on Okcupid and he deletes his whole account. I was so baffled. That was until saw that he created a NEW profile just yesterday. All it says is that he had a bad okcupid experience, and to please have a full shot of your body.

Ok. I get what this asshole did. He treated me like complete shit because I’m not super model skinny. I don’t have a full body pic, but I did tell him that I was average, which is TRUE. I am average, I have curves, I don’t fit into a size skinny jeans. Is this reason to treat me the way he did? GOD it’s scumbags like these which make me lose all faith in mankind!!!”

If only there was a site where both members knew exactly what they wanted and what they were getting into….

OnlineBootyCall.com

OnlineBootyCall.com, John Legend & Estelle Party

OnlineBootyCall.com invited us out to their afterparty in San Diego for John Legend and Estelle’s Birthday.  The place (Stingaree) was packed, it was a total blast and my god, so may hot girls!  There’s pic of Moses and Estelle below from the party and Bossip did a little article too.

We have to say, although we’re a bit biased here, that it’s so great to see an online dating site like OnlineBootyCall.com expanding the casual dating scene.  Their awesome parties are a much welcomed contrast from eharmony’s stuffy, fumpy and boring approach to dating.

If anyone wants to see some better pics of John Legend, Moses Brown & Estelle, check out the pro’s from wireimage…

It was great to have some celebs in SD that really know how to party!  Estelle and John Legend sang and the ladies went wild, which was, Awesome!

Moses Brown, OnlineBootyCall.com and Estelle

John Legend & Moses Brown, OnlineBootyCall.com

We got some great video at the party too, but I’ll have to put that up after I detox for a bit haha….

Alec on Kissing Aniston

I think my love affair for Jennifer Aniston started when she was in the movie Office Space.  I also think that movie really solidified my distaste for cubicals, but that’s another post.  I can’t say that Brad was a fool for going for Angalina, but I must say that Jennifer is one amazing woman.

Anyway in my daily cruising around the web, I came across this little story from New York Magazine which gives Alec’s thoughts on Kissing Aniston, who played a crazy lover on an episode of 30 Rock.

Alec also talks a bit about if crazy people are great lovers or not.  The short of it:  girls = yes, guys = no.

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Lonely…

Dating can be lonely, when things don’t go well for you.. Click on the comic strip below to see where the story leads..

Dating Can Be Lonely..

Simpsons on Marriage

I don’t think I need to go into the long running history of the Simpsons. I grew up with the show and still love it. It has for many years made Sundays with my own family much more enjoyable, even to the point of being able to tolerate them.

With that said, Homer and Marge haven’t always had the easiest marriage. After all, Homer is pretty much a big goof-ball. This last episode covered some of the more rocky parts of their marriage and was yet another awesome Simpsons episode. Anyone can guess how all the issues worked out, but it’s still an important reminder of the real issues we all (cartoons and humans) face in marriage.

Worth the watch if you’ve got nothing better to do. Check it out here on Hulu.

Top Iraqi Dating Site

Looks like our favorite site www.OnlineBootyCall.com is kicking some ass.  They’re currently the top dating site in Iraq, thanks of course to the soldiers.  Get the full story and click below:

http://digg.com/world_news/OnlineBootyCall_com_Top_Dating_Site_In_Iraq

Marky Mark on Marriage

Now that we’ve been at this blog for a minute, I’ve come to realize just how much attention celebrity relationships get. I don’t think all the attention is unwarranted. Celebrity relationships are usually interesting, especially so, because a great many of them end in total disaster. This helps to explain their special place in the public eye. Right up there along side train wrecks.

Mark Wahlberg may prove however to be the exception to the rule. (we’re open to taking bets on this). He has announced his engagement and wedding next summer to his long time girl-friend and mother of his children Rhea Durham.

What we found unique about this announcement was that Wahlberg included reasons as to why he was ready for marriage and how he thinks marriage will improve their relationship.

“I wasn’t prepared to be married – I don’t care who it was – at [age] 20 or 30,” said Wahlberg. But now, he says, he’s ready for “committing to really making it work constantly and all the other things that go into building a solid foundation.”

People Magazine gives the full story with all the details on how Wahlberg plans to change his life as he prepares for marriage and the new responsibility.

There’s no guarantee how the marriage will turn out, but we want to give credit where credit is due. Mark Wahlberg, great job on waiting to get married until you had shown to yourself, and those that mattered most, that you had earned the responsibility and you were ready to commit to it!

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Madonna’s Split A Good Warning

I’ve heard this advice several times, “you want for your life to be an example to others, not a warning.” Madonna and Ritchie’s recent split a.k.a legal filing for divorce, stands as a strong warning on how things can go very bad in marriage.

The link will take you to The Telegraph’s article on Madonna’s oppressive and rigid rules and just down unattractive actions. I mean really!?! Sleeping on a vat full of creams each night? I can hear it now “so sorry baby I’m not in the mood, since I’m already wrapped in a sack full of creamy crap.”

Then good ‘ol guy rolls over bummed out, thinking: “we’ll I’ll just turn on the tube for a minute.” Guess what? WRONG! Not in Madonna’s house! No TV for you sir. How freaking miserable.

So let yet another disastrous celebrity marriage stand as good warning! Please, take your time and proceed with caution as you approach marriage!

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Don’t Call Me Cute

Complimenting women is not rocket science and it doesn’t necessarily have to be poetry either. It’s not about inventing the wittiest remark ever uttered. Many guys rely on tired phrases like “you look cute” or “you’re so sweet.”

As we’ve discussed before, our boy Cyrano would never resort to a generic compliment like “cute” or “sweet.” At best, an uncreative compliment like that comes across as an empty gesture. You might as well insult the poor woman.

Earlier today I ran into a post from Suddenly Singles written by Single Gal. She has an honest appraisal of trite remarks like ‘cute’ or ’sweet,’ plus she includes one of the most candid dating profile descriptions, or ‘about me’ narratives, that I have read.

Below is the excerpt that caught my eye:

“I am not “sweet” or “cute”. I know you may mean these things as compliments, but if and when you say them to me, I will think you are referring to someone else. I have lots of fine qualities – I am generous, I am kind, I am attentive, and I am thoughtful. But “sweet” does not fit. I am direct almost to a fault, and nary a work of sugar drips from my lips. I’m a happy person but I’m not a smiler. And, I simply am not “cute”. I can’t pull off pony tales or berets. I hardly wear accessories, and my looks are average, at best. I curse like a trucker. I am not putting myself down: this is simply the facts. If you call me “cute”, I will think of ponies and puppies. I will think of girls who wear lots of pink, and who are bubbly and outgoing. Be appropriate in your selection of adjectives, and for god’s sake, don’t say things you don’t mean because you think they will impress me. They won’t.”

It’s pretty clear: Don’t bull$hit Single Gal with meaningless compliments. Be upfront and deliver genuineness. If you think she’s attractive, let her know. Don’t falter about with useless adjectives. Describing someone as ’sweet’ is almost as bad as calling somebody ‘nice.’ It’s a bland, safe adjective that makes you look like a fool.

I commend Single Gal’s straight forward approach to online dating. It eliminates a lot of guesswork and it saves you the painful process of trying to ‘figure out’ how to approach her (usually done through a series of recurring mistakes).

I wish I could find more women willing to express these ideas. It would make online dating that much more pleasant!

Read Single Gal’s full article here: Who Am I?

Online Dating Wingman

For guys dabbling with online dating, writing good messages is the biggest stumbling block to meeting women. Any time you see a cute profile picture of a female, the dreaded next step is to compose a message to spark a conversation. Just like walking up to a girl at a bar, it can be unnerving to compose a message to send to an attractive girl.

Guys need help from Cyrano de Bergerac, the trusty wordsmith and noble wingman of playwright history. Although he is disfigured by a large nose, Cyrano is a hopeless romantic who helps his friend Christian conquer the lovely Roxanne, the love of Cyrano’s life. How does he do this?

Imagine the famous Romeo and Juliet balcony scene (Romeo, Romeo, wherefore art thou Romeo?), but when Romeo appears before Juliet, he has a wingman hiding in the shadows below, whispering the most poetic lyrics he can come up with so Romeo can charm Juliet. That’s what Cyrano did for his friend Christian. He made him eloquent, confident, seductive. Now that’s a wingman for you, completely selfless.

Cyrano De Bergerac - Wingman of Lore

There needs to be an online dating wingman service out there for guys. If there was a team of selfless Cyranos willing to help other men meet the women of their dreams, then online dating would be dramatically more effective. I’m surprised I haven’t seen this service offered somewhere. There is a huge demand for it when it comes to traditional dating sites.

Perhaps Marriage Can Wait will need to start a support group to help men collaborate on these type of issues. An announcement will have to be made. VIRTUAL WINGMEN NEEDED!

Come back to check with us and see how this idea develops! We might be onto something here ;0)